Nā mea a pau āu e makemake ai eʻike
Ma hope o ka heleʻana o nā hoa kāne a me nā kaikamāhine i lalo i ka paepae,ʻo ko lākou mau pokole o ka mareʻana-ʻo ka mea lawe lima a me ke kaikamahine puaʻa -make i kā lākou hoʻomaka. ʻOiaiʻo ia kekahi o nāʻaoʻao hōʻeuʻeu o ka hālāwai, he manawa kūpono nō hoʻi no kekahi mau mea maʻaʻole i ka wā'ōpiopio o ke kuʻi lima. E aʻo e pili ana i ka mea e manaʻoʻia ana o kāu mea lawe lima a me ka mea e hiki ai iāʻoe ke hana e hōʻoia i ka hele mālie o kānaʻaoʻao.
ʻO ka mea halihali pinepine he keiki'ōpiopio ia ma waena o nā makahiki 4 a me 8 a he pili kūikawā maoli nō i ka wahine mare a me ka wahine kāne.
Hiki paha iā ia ke pili aku iā lākou, aiʻole he hoaaloha piliʻohana.
ʻOiaiʻo ka mea halihali pale he mea maʻamau o kaʻahaʻaina mare , hiki iāʻoe ke koho iʻole kahi. Inā heleʻoe i kēia ala,ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa ke halihali i nā apo i loko o kānaʻeke.
Pehea e koho ai i kahi mea lawe lima
E nānā aku i kahi kanaka'ōpio kūpono i ka mea nui i kou ola, a e hana nui i kāna kuleana. Inā pilikiaʻoe i ka kohoʻana ma waena o nā keikiʻelua,ʻaʻohe kumu e hiki ai iāʻoe ke loaʻaʻole iʻelua mea halihali. E hāʻawi iā lākou i kekahi apo e lawe ai a hoʻouna iā lākou i lalo. A iʻole inā he lōʻihi lōʻihiʻoe, e hiki ke hana ma keʻano heʻaoʻao keiki (ke kālai kaʻa) ma kahi. Inā'ōpiopio loa kāu keiki, hiki iāʻoe ke makemake iā ia e laweʻiaʻo ia e ka wahine wahine wahine i kahi kaʻawale a kokokeʻo ia e pale i nā waimaka a me ka wāwae.
Hiki paha i ke mea halihali lima ke lilo i kaikamahine: makemakeʻoe iā ia eʻaʻahu i kaʻaʻahu e kūlike me ke kaikamahine puaʻa, aiʻole e hiki iā ia ke lole i kahi mea'ē aʻe.
Hoʻomakaukauʻana i kāu mea lawe lima
ʻO ka kūʻaiʻana i kahi puke o nā keiki e pili ana i ke komoʻana i ke komo lima he mea akamai. ʻO ka hanaʻana pēlā e kōkua iā ia eʻike ai i kona kuleana a me kona hoʻomaopopo i kona nui. E noho i kona mau mākua ma ke āpau, e kokoke ana i mua e hiki iā ia keʻike iā lākou i kona heleʻana i lalo i ke āpau a me ka wā o ka hana.
E noi aku i kahi kāne wahine e lilo i "hoa" nona aeʻike pono e hoʻohanaʻo ia i ka lumi hoʻomaha ma mua o ka hālāwai. E hōʻole i ka hoʻonāukiukiʻana iā ia ma ke kāohiʻana i nā apo lewa i ka uluna (hiki i ke kanaka maikaʻi ke hoʻopaʻa i nā mea maoli), a kali e hāʻawi iā ia i ka uluna a hiki i ka manawa pono e iho ai i lalo. ʻO ka mea nui loa, e hoʻomanaʻo i keʻano o ke keiki a me nā meaʻeʻe a hiki paha ke hana. Ināʻoe keʻano perfectionist, e koho i kahi mea wili kahiko iʻole, aiʻole e hele i waho.
Ke hele ka mea hae
I ka wā e holo ai ka mea halihali lima e like me ka hana maʻamau a me ka hoʻomana . ʻO keʻano, heleʻo ia ma lalo o ka wāwae ma mua o ke kaikamahine puaʻa, ma hope o ka wahine wahine hope hope me nā mīkini lima i hoʻopaʻaʻia i kahi uluna liʻiliʻi.
Ka mea e pono ai ke halihali i ka mea lawe lima
Makemake kekahi poʻe i ka nānāʻana o "nā kauā'ōnewele," kahi e halihali ai ka mea komo lima i kahi liʻiliʻi nui. A iʻole, ināʻoe eʻaʻahu ana i ke kaikamahine'ōmaʻomaʻo ma ke kapa keʻokeʻo, ma mua o ke kūlike me nā kaikamāhine, e makemake pahaʻoe e loaʻa i kahi keʻokeʻo keʻokeʻo no ka mea komo lima. No nā mea kiko'ī liʻiliʻi,ʻo kaʻaʻahu Eton me ka pume liʻiliʻi he nānā maoli. Eia nō naʻe, inā he maleʻana ka maleʻana i kaʻahaʻaina, hiki i ka mea lawe lima ke lole i nāʻano'ōpiopio o kaʻaʻahu o ka poʻe kāne wahine, aiʻole kekahi mea e hoʻohui ai a he kūpono kūpono.
Kahi e Loaʻa ai i kahi mea lawe lima a mea hana paha
Inā hoʻolimalimaʻia nā kāne male, pono i nā hale kūʻai ke nui nā keiki. Hiki iāʻoe ke loaʻa nā mea pale lole i nā hale kūʻai kāleka, nā hale lole lole o nā keiki, a me nā hale kūʻai o nā keʻena. E hōʻoiaʻiʻoʻoe e koho i kekahi mea maʻalahiʻole ma muli o ka uku mau o nā mākua o ka mea wili. Inā ua hoʻokau i kou puʻuwai i kahi meaʻoi aku ka mea kūʻai, he maikaʻi nāʻano e kōkua ai i ka ukuʻana i ke kapa.